University of Virginia

20 March  2014 was a good day

Rising before the sun, I set off to Nelson County in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains. there I gave a talk about honor, kindness, tolerance and self-control , which inspired the audience members to introduce me to Kia Sher.

Drawing strength from immense personal tragedy Kia  shows that life is an energy force, which you chose to use either negatively or positively.

My journey then led me to one of Virginia’s most famous institutions the University of Virginia, while the architecture made for good camera fodder, it was the student honor code that impressed me most.


“The University of Virginia’s Honor Code is at once an injunction and an aspiration. The injunction is simple: students pledge never to lie, cheat, or steal, and accept that the consequence for breaking this pledge is permanent dismissal from the University. It is for its aspirational quality, however, that the Honor Code is so cherished: in leading lives of honor, students have continuously renewed that unique spirit of compassion and interconnectedness that has come to be called the Community of Trust. In the words of the Michael Suarez, S.J., Professor of English, “honor calls us to be honorable to each other not merely by not committing transgressions, but also by doing reverence to the other in our midst.”

Meanwhile, back in South Africa, on 20 March 2015

I honored this beings right to live. By suppressing my vasopressin and allowing my oxitoxin to flow,   I engaged my frontal cortex and quickly found method to capture and release it in a way that would cause us both the least discomfort.


The first step to personal honor is to suppress irrational fears and inbred irrational bias.

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  1. Honor – is a pleasant word/meaning in a man’s world.
    Dignity is on the rise and will widen its perspective – as yet to be seen.

    Honor vs. humiliation —
    The age of honor started to become replaced by the age of dignity around 1757.

    “William Ian Miller informs us that “the earliest recorded use of to humiliate, meaning to mortify or to lower or to depress the dignity or self-respect of someone, does not occur until 1757.” In other words, in the English-speaking world, humiliation was not seen as hurtful until about 250 years ago. […] For millennia, people around the world believed that it was normal and morally correct to have masters and underlings, and that masters were entitled to be treated as higher beings and underlings deserved to be shown “where they belonged.” […]
    The emergence of the modern meaning of the word humiliation (1757) co-occurs with a number of other transitions. The author of The Invention of the Self [1978], John O. Lyons, for example, analyzed travelers’ descriptions of their experiences and found that around 1750 the authors began to insert themselves as subjects with a personal perspective on what they observed. This change closely preceded the American Declaration of Independence (July 4, 1776) and the French Revolution (4. August 1789), rallying points for the development of the human rights movement. […] Religions such as Christianity and Islam teach ideals of equality. However, these ideals did not move to the forefront of Western consciousness until about 250 years ago. […]
    The West was the first region to be impacted by […] the second round of globalization, which brought about a new set of global realities. Those realities eroded
    * the old age of honor (with fear as defining negative emotion)
    and gave way to
    * the new age of dignity (with humiliation as defining negative emotion).

    Evelin Gerda Lindner, Ph.D., M.D. (*1954) German physician, psychologist, transdisciplinary scholar in social sciences and humanities, human dignity researcher, founding president of Human Dignity and Humiliation Studies (HumanDHS), “Making Enemies. Humiliation and International Conflict”, chapter 2 Once the Cure, Now the Disease, pg. 22-23, Praeger, 30. June 2006


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